What is proper etiquette for inviting co-workers to a wedding?
by william on Thursday, May 13th, 2010 | 7 Comments
I have been working in my office for a year and my wedding is in 9 months. The total people in my office is approximately 30 people. I have the financial means to invite them all, but I am at a loss who to invite. I am especially close to some, but we are all pretty close-knit meaning that if I only invite some, the others will find out and be offended. A few people in the office I am not close to at all, but they are management. What should I do and who should I invite? Is this all proper wedding etiquette?
Don’t invite any of them to the ceremony & formal reception. Invite them all to the evening party. That’s what i did.
*Hey just a tip repost this question in wedding and you will get alot more responses* I would go ahead and invite them all just so that there are no hurt feelings ~ half of them probably wouldn’t show up anyway. But as far as inviting just the singles, I would let them bring a guest if you can afford it bc I know I wouldn’t feel comfortable going alone.
The way I did my wedding invitation for my husband’s co-workers I ask his boss if I could put an invitation and a signing sheet for RSVP on the bulletin board IT WORKS out 80 people only 35 show up but a week after my husband was coming with gifts from those who couldn’t make it. Total after wedding gifts $190.00 and 10 housewhole iteams. I hope it works for you, my stress was released I didn’t look like I forgat someone or prefer others. The choice was theirs.
Since money isn’t a factor, I’d invite everyone.
Again since money isn’t an issue, I’d give the same invitation to everyone for themselves as well as a guest. You never know 9 months down the line who will be single, or dating someone.
Then make sure you have an RSVP card in the invitation so you can get an accurate count of how many to expect.
I think mdkmylov… gave you a great idea that would be a good thing to do. Post an open invitation with a RSVP sheet. That way those you are not close to won’t feel left out or obligated to get you a gift.
Also I agree that is money isn’t a factor then invite everyone. The people you’re not close to probably won’t come anyway.
While you may be on good terms with everybody at the office, the thing to do is ask yourself this: is this a person I would invite into my home for a dinner party? Do I socialize with this person outside of work functions? If so, then ask that person to your wedding. If not, then don’t. If you’re not close enough to certain people to have a relationship with them outside the office, they have no reason to be offended about not being invited to your wedding; they should not expect an invitation.
One way you can cut down on those who think they should be invited when they’re not close to you at all is to keep wedding chatter at work to a minimum. If they don’t know the details of when/where/etc, then they can’t get their expectations up.
As you know, it’s standard protocol to invite spouses, live-ins and signficiant others to any social event you host. However, it’s entirely up to you about inviting “Plus 1′s” and you do not need to feel any guilt if you choose not to do Plus 1′s. It’s not about being able to afford it; it’s about inviting people you actually know and have some connection to you and your family.
Hope this is helpful!
I invited by co-workers I was very friendly with and my boss as well as their spouses.